Sermon Notes

The Gospel in Exodus – 5th Commandment “Honor Your Parents”

This morning we examine the first commandment which is primarily concerning our horizontal relationships. Remember Jesus summarized the commandments by saying, “Matt. 22:37-40, “And he said to him, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets." 

  •          The __________________ of Familial Relationships. I find it quite striking that when God gives commandments concerning our horizontal relationships, He begins with the home, the family. Also significant is the fact that this commandment is #5, the very center of the 10 commandments. 

Phillip Ryken, President of Wheaton College “”In telling us how to treat one another, God starts with our families”.

  •          The ________________ of Parental Relationships. This 5th commandments specifically addresses the issue of parent/children relationships. The first word in the commandment is of great importance; “Honor”.

The Hebrew word, “Ka-bad” means: “to be heavy, be weighty, be honourable, be glorious, be honoured”. It refers to the giving weight, reverence or respect to our parents in specific and to our elders in general.

Notice that the commandment deals with both “father and mother”, even in a culture where men were dominate, the Lord commanded that “respect and honor” be given to moms, as well as dads.  

Seriousness of breaking this commandment: Leviticus 20:8-9

  •          The _______________  Attached to this Commandment. God gives encouragement and reward to those that keep this commandment.  The Apostle Paul calls this the “first commandment with promise”. (Eph. 6:1-3)

While some hold that this promise is individual and guaranteed; it is actually to be seen in the context of the Hebrew setting. The expression, “to live long in the land” is a Hebrew phrase that speaks of the “fullness of God’s blessing”; not a guarantee that those that honor their parents will live to be 90!

Application: How do we honor our parents? What if our parents are unbelievers, or have been abusive or neglectful? This commandment, perhaps as much as any other, brings sorrow and anguish to many hearts!

  • Ø  Recognize that parents are to be the primary God-given authority in the home. Submission and obedience is to be given, unless you are required to do something illegal or immoral. “Obey them in the Lord”.
  • Ø  Respect the position of parents, even if your particular situation was hurtful. Yes, there are abusive and neglectful parents; but that does not negate the good purposes God has ordained in the home. 
  • Ø  Remember that your parents are broken sinful people; often products of their parent’s brokenness. Apart from the power of the Gospel and grace of God, often cycles of abuse and neglect are repeated.
  • Ø  Pray for their salvation and for their Spiritual growth to become like Christ. I feel there is no greater way to honor our parents that to pray for them!
  • Ø  Look for ways to demonstrate respect, love and honor to aging parents in specific, and to all elderly in general. Understand the connection between honoring our parents and honoring God!
  • Ø  Regardless of your relationship with your earthly father; God is a good Father and He desires to have a relationship with you! That’s good news!